This seems to be a classic example of 'projection' as psychologists use this word: he ascribes HIS fears of being deserted by clients and colleagues to you. Is this new improvement or an earlier happening? Poor Dr. Asshat - hasn't he always been an extremely introverted and a bit strange guy? Of course, this does not make his behaviour acceptable but might explain it to some extent.
By the way, can you imagine a country where there are a lot of Dr. Asshats and Dr. Ethics and almost nobody smiles at you? This is my homeland.
My homeland is a tiny, sad, potty country in Europe with the highest amount of depressive persons per square meter in the world. I managed to avoid Dr. Asshats and Dr. Ethics in my immediate neighbourhood (my boss is an Anti-Dr.-Asshat/Ethics) and I try to withdraw from the atmosphere here but my life is unavoidably determined by a lot of politician-Dr. Asshats and scholar-Dr. Ethics. What somewhat helps is laughing together with my friends at them. An old friend of mine who emigrated from here to the US told me that first she was irritated by the "keep smiling"-attitude of the people in America. She did not unterstand why people are smiling at her; she thought these smiles are empty and meaningless. But after a while she realised that if you are smiling - maybe, without any concrete reason - then this has a backward effect, too, and can lead to feeling happy. And, of course, the other person may feel happy, too, or at least, there is a chance of a friendly atmosphere.
You are very wise. I wish you could get away from the Dr. Ethics and Dr. Asshats. Your friend is right, there is a generally friendly atmosphere in America. I will try not to take that for granted. I forget how fortunate I am. I am glad you have found ways to cope and that you are surrounded by good people, and it sounds like, have a good boss.
I think a lot of people would follow you. It makes me want you to have a Jerry Maguire moment.
ReplyDeletethanks Dexter Dog! Turns out you are right :) I have not seen Jerry McGuire - now I will watch it!
DeleteI believe this incident also happened to my sister while she was still a rookie in her job. The old people don't listen.
ReplyDeleteDon't let that get you down.
Huggies and Cheese,
Haopee
Oh your poor sister Haopee! Some people seem to be mean just for the sake of being mean! I do not know why!
DeleteThis seems to be a classic example of 'projection' as psychologists use this word: he ascribes HIS fears of being deserted by clients and colleagues to you. Is this new improvement or an earlier happening?
ReplyDeletePoor Dr. Asshat - hasn't he always been an extremely introverted and a bit strange guy? Of course, this does not make his behaviour acceptable but might explain it to some extent.
By the way, can you imagine a country where there are a lot of Dr. Asshats and Dr. Ethics and almost nobody smiles at you? This is my homeland.
You are right on target, Kolytyi! Where is your homeland? How do you deal with so many Dr. Asshats and Dr. Ethics?
DeleteMy homeland is a tiny, sad, potty country in Europe with the highest amount of depressive persons per square meter in the world.
DeleteI managed to avoid Dr. Asshats and Dr. Ethics in my immediate neighbourhood (my boss is an Anti-Dr.-Asshat/Ethics) and I try to withdraw from the atmosphere here but my life is unavoidably determined by a lot of politician-Dr. Asshats and scholar-Dr. Ethics. What somewhat helps is laughing together with my friends at them.
An old friend of mine who emigrated from here to the US told me that first she was irritated by the "keep smiling"-attitude of the people in America. She did not unterstand why people are smiling at her; she thought these smiles are empty and meaningless. But after a while she realised that if you are smiling - maybe, without any concrete reason - then this has a backward effect, too, and can lead to feeling happy. And, of course, the other person may feel happy, too, or at least, there is a chance of a friendly atmosphere.
You are very wise. I wish you could get away from the Dr. Ethics and Dr. Asshats. Your friend is right, there is a generally friendly atmosphere in America. I will try not to take that for granted. I forget how fortunate I am. I am glad you have found ways to cope and that you are surrounded by good people, and it sounds like, have a good boss.
DeleteMaybe they won't, but if I leave I'll have my self-respect.
ReplyDeleteTrue Rumpy Dog!
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